Desired perception

Desired perception is why people reject you or say no to you. Everyone has a desired perception about their own life, where you are merely a fit. Either they see you as a potential fit, or you believe yourself that you are the desired fit in their life. Even if a person has unwavering love for someone, they can still be rejected because they are not the missing part or the desired part the other person is looking for. The irony is that even when you say “love”, it is also a desired missing part you are seeking and yet, it still fails.

There are two positions we place ourselves in: the receiver and the giver. But which one is right? The answer is to be the giver rather than the receiver; otherwise, no one will ever truly fit with anyone. Two people cannot remain receivers at the same time. If you choose to be a receiver, you will look for a giver, and vice versa. Over time, it becomes hectic and draining when one person is stuck only in the role of giver or receiver. Partners who fail to understand how to switch roles with each other begin to suffer, cheat, or find ways to drift apart. All of this disappears in what we call real love, or cosmic love: zero perception, zero expectations, zero desires.

However, this is almost impossible in the real world because we are not designed to experience love without conditioning. We always place conditions before someone that define our love for them and theirs for us. So when you say, “I’m not meant for love” or “Love is not on my side,” it simply means you have an underlying grid of desires. You don’t love as a giver; you want to be the receiver of love. When everyone wants to be the receiver, conversations revolve around me, I, my, while rejection is framed as they, them. “I failed in love.” But how is that even possible if you have control over yourself? Saying “I failed” really means you failed to fulfill your desired perception at a core level. With time, this turns into bitterness because you’re not getting anything you expected. Every action you take becomes attached to your unmet desires, yet you still expect things to improve. But once you choose to be a giver, authority itself grants you the power to fulfill both your expectations and others’. You become energetic, fulfilled, and satisfied.

The sad part is that our victim mentality never lets us see that we can be givers and still have authority, because we have free will. Even sadder, we romanticize receivers and overlook the givers.